Massage Therapist Vs Masseuse-Masseur – What Title Do Licensed Professional Body Workers Prefer?

I had a celebrity client in my private practice a couple months ago and when his session was up he sat up on the massage table and said quite politely, “can we have sex now, please.” I was taken aback by the request and wasn’t sure I heard correctly, so I said, huh? He repeated his request and I jokingly responded “not today, maybe next time” with a nervous giggle and kept on giving my follow-up care suggestions. Well, he was friendly, very open to the energy and therapy I delivered and let’s face it, most people will be in a “very loving head space” at the end of a really good massage. I didn’t want to abruptly change that. He returned for one more session, but I am now wondering whether he did so because I said “maybe next time” rather than respond that sex was not on my menu of services. Since I was a little surprised by his request, joke or no joke, I decided that I would always refer clients to my Menu of Services, and remind them that I am not licensed to practice anything else, especially that which is illegal.

Earlier this week, I put the word out on my fan page that I was in the hunt for a new place to reopen for business. I would be open to suggestions that afforded foot traffic, signage and which was low-budget and unencumbered by anything porn related. A male colleague sent me an email, reiterating his earlier advice that I get out of any business connected to the porn industry since landlords are less willing to rent space to these businesses. This, although my colleague knows I am not doing pornographic massage, and that there are legal and reputable places here for legitimate bodywork. He has not been to my practice, because he prefers to have a happy ending after his massage and so he goes to these other places that offer that. Not really “my loss”….

At a stage in my career/business where I, as a single woman with no support from anyone, am struggling to survive along with everyone else who don’t want to “cross over,” these suggestions sort of well…break my heart. It isn’t enough to be concerned that some psychopath or pervert is going to request a massage that I get chosen to go out and do; or worst, maybe he comes to my home for the massage and does something to ruin my sacred space. I am not better than doing pornographic massage and actually I would make better money and live better if I were to cross over. This I have been told by many of the male colleagues in this area. Some people I played poker with were very frank with me and indicated that if I offered happy endings, they’d be there three times per week. I am a good-looking woman and I can’t change that this is how men think and it is mostly who request massages. How disheartening for those who want their chosen field of work to be anything but salacious, lecherous, and pornographic. All I want to give is clean, healthy, therapeutic healing and rejuvenation delivered by a healthy, clean conduit with amazing, loving hands and heart. These scenarios are the reasons I despise the words masseuse and masseur. They imply erotic touch, something immoral and, well,…shameful…unless you are a “person of the night,” an escort, a prostitute who is proud and happy about being that. I AM A MASSAGE THERAPIST, OFFERING MASSAGE THERAPY; NOT THE SAME THING AS THESE PROUD PROSTITUTES.

Understandably, the Wikipedia says: “Those who practice massage as a career are referred to as masseurs, masseuses, or, if certified, as massage therapists.” The words masseuse and masseur are from a French word, Masser, which means “to massage,” “to knead” (as in bread), “to rub down,” “to mass or to throng together.” Hence the masseuse (female) and the masseur (male) does the “rubbing down” or [therapeutically] “mass or throng together” your broken spirits, bodies, energies, so that you heal, become whole again to go back out and face your challenges. These are the sentiments behind my massage practice. I desire to help people become whole again, if even for a moment, so that they can heal little by little and face their challenges with a loving feeling and maybe loving thoughts in their hearts. This was the original import of those words, although somewhere along the way they became popular in the whore houses of Europe, Asia and the Americas.

I belong to a religion in which modesty is a big deal. I have told many therein that I am a massage therapist and I watch for the look on their faces. Some have taken my card/number, possibly to “investigate” while others take it but will never call. Others have chosen not to associate with me because well, (1) I wear dreadlocks, which is to some an immodest, rebellious hairstyle among other things; and (2) they imagine that I am doing something “unholy” in my massage business and God knows where else I am unholy in my path and hence I must be ruled a bad associate. If I say I am a therapist, they instantly assume “physical therapist”…and that’s o.k…, but not massage therapist…they don’t know about that….

I have wondered what they would do if I said I was a gynecologist or urologist. Hmm…I wonder whether they would have a similar reaction. After all, these professionals look at vaginas and penises, etc. all day! These are the same people who go to the doctor and strip down for examinations and have no idea whether the doctor is a pervert, child molester, rapist, or whatever or care whether he or she shares their beliefs. They simply trust that he or she is a “doctor”, hence it’s fine and they assume no sexual connotation to this job title. Yet, our society has become so debased that people believe that sex and sexuality must be attached to every loving feeling or touch outside of that. It is “normal” to believe that one cannot touch another in a massage setting with only “therapeutic, non-sexual intentions.” One client told me I was being “absurd” and “unbelievable”, when I responded that I wasn’t thinking about any such thing when I massaged him or any other client. He couldn’t believe that I could have no sexual reaction to him or any other sexy men or women for whom I provided therapy. How unfortunate….

Recently, I renewed my certification with the California Massage Therapy Council. The recertification questionnaire asked the following questions (among others), the answers to which would determine my, and any “legitimate therapist’s”, legal qualification:

“Step 2-Professional Status Questions: A “Yes” answer to any of the following questions requires a separate statement explaining in your own words the complete details regarding the incident or event. All supporting documentation must be attached to your recertification application at the time it is filed with the California Massage Therapy council (“CAMTC”). CAMTC reserves the right to request additional documentation as needed. Failure to disclose information is considered an attempt to procure a certificate by fraud, misrepresentation, or mistake and is grounds for denial, suspension, or revocation of a CAMTC Certificate. All questions are required to be answered before being allowed to continue.

1. Since the date you signed and dated your initial application for certification to CAMTC, have you received an administrative citation related to, or been refused a license, or license-renewal to practice massage therapy or any other profession in any city, county, state, country, or jurisdiction?

2. Since the date you signed and dated your initial application for certification to CAMTC, have you had a license, certificate, or permit to practice massage therapy, operate a massage establishment, or had any other license, permit, or certificate to practice any other profession revoked, suspended, or otherwise acted against (including administrative citation, probation, fine, reprimand, or surrender of license, permit, or certificate)?

3. Since the date you signed and dated your initial application for certification to CAMTC, have you had, or is there currently pending against you in any city, county, state, country, or jurisdiction, a complaint against your professional conduct (sexual misconduct or otherwise) or professional competence?

4. Since the date you signed and dated your initial application for certification to CAMTC, have you been arrested and had criminal charges filed against you for penal code section 647(b) or any other act punishable as a sexually related crime?

5. Since the date you signed and dated your initial application for certification to CAMTC, have you been convicted of any offense other than a minor traffic violation? Convictions MUST be reported even if they have been adjudicated, dismissed, expunged, or if a diversion program has been completed. The definition of “conviction” includes a plea of nolo contendere (no contest), as well as pleas or verdicts of guilty. You MUST include misdemeanor as well as felony convictions.

If you have answered yes to any of the above questions, please give us your written statement describing the complete details regarding the incident or event.”

This one was exceptionally notable: “I understand and agree that renewal of my CAMTC certificate may be denied based on unprofessional conduct if I practice massage at a massage establishment, or own a massage establishment, that advertises in any adult and/or sexually oriented section of any form of media, whether print or digital.”

Yes, some people will lie in response to these questions, but for how long, since it is the D.O.J. and F.B.I. that are behind the CAMTC and our documents are scanned. It is then, very clear to me that there is a mass movement to garner a greater respect for the craft of massage therapy and for legitimate therapists to stand united, separate from the “rub ‘n tug” houses with their masseuses and masseurs. If you are not French, then don’t use “masseuse or masseur” to describe your therapist unless they perform erotic massage. Heck, even if you are French and you know these words have a negative connotation in the field of bodywork, don’t use them to describe this legitimate craft. Follow the lead of the CAMTC and set the bar for your practice and for what you, as a consumer, expect of your massage establishments.

Therapists must consider whether they are providing a service they can be proud of in any discussion? Are you a very happy and willing rub ‘n tug masseuse/masseur? Set the bar and draw the line. Do you want patrons to respect you and your skill set. People say who they are in the same breath as saying what they do. I’m Dr. So and So; I’m Professor so and so; I’m Detective Jones. Never once have I inquired what someone did for work and the response was that they were an escort, erotic masseuse, etc. I proudly declare I am a legal and certified massage therapist. I have no desire to do anything shameful in this business. I seek to nurture and build a clientele that appreciates what I do for them, their health and who is generous in spirit to keep the circle of love going. I seek clients who have not sold into the idea that loving touch must be sexual. Together, maybe, we can contribute to healing the world, one body at a time and make it so that love, loving, healing touch becomes such a positive and popular thing that one doesn’t need to associate it with sex regardless of the parasympathetic responses to this well-needed therapy.

Massage Therapy and Spa: Enjoy the Power of the Right Touch

Like a woman is expected to be a supermom, a super efficient wife, a loving friend and a knock-out lover, men also have to live up to a host of expectations bombarding them constantly from their workplace, family, relationships and friends. Yet this Superman also needs that private moment when he can enjoy some sensual indulgences in an environment that is not expecting him to ‘perform’. All he needs to do is to mentally and physically unwind to get the best out of every moment that he has decided to spend in a premier male centric spa lounge.

‘Unwinding’ and ‘de-stressing’ are words we use rather loosely. Ask any man, and he would tell you that to unwind in the truest sense is sometimes more difficult than one would like to believe. Here too you need the right ambience, someone who sets you in the right mood and perhaps heals you with a sensual touch that loosens all those taut nerves. This, as anyone knows is the job best left to skilled masseuses, something that is guaranteed when you opt for massage in Brussels.

Premier male centric spa lounge: what to expect

When you enter a spa exclusively designed to cater to sophisticated and distinguished male clientele, there are two built-in benefits: personal service and attention and secondly professional massages from skilled masseuses who understand every nerve of the male anatomy, like no one else. This is the reason why they can inject so much vitality, energy and positivity into you after each session.

Though many of the massage parlors for men put extra emphasis on sexual arousals, etc., there are some exclusive spa lounges for massage in Brussels where they offer several treatments which are luxurious, indulgent and lavish; here sexual arousals are not the primary focus. You can expect all this without compromising on sensuality, which is the essence of all hand massages.

Luxury massage: you owe it to yourself

You need to completely remove all feelings of guilt if you are spending some quality time trying to pamper yourself. There is nothing selfish about it – as you are not depriving any of your loved one from any pleasure. You have taken the initiative to unwind and leave stress out for a while in your life as you enjoy some of the basic enjoyments that life has to offer. It is time you did something wonderful for yourself. As the expert hands of the master masseuse touch you gently, your body surrenders to the sensual pleasure and your mind is completely at ease with the world. As they say, the right touch can be more sensually arousing than indulging in any sexual act.

What kind of personal service does these lounges provide

Over and above, providing you with the near-perfect ambience including clean and tasteful interior d├ęcor, private parking facility some of these luxury spa lounges for men also help you with classy hotel accommodation, escort service for dining and enjoying the nightlife in Brussels and more. You would be attended by professional masseuses who are certified therapists and are thorough with the principles and practices of a range of massages including sensual massage, Swedish and Candle massage, Tantric and relaxing massage and more.

Sexual Positions – There Is More Than One You Know

Your 5 times a week gymnastic ritual in the bedroom has dwindled to a once a month fumble with the lights out. Where did it all go wrong? Can it be put right? All relationships need a little injection of spice to keep the fires burning. Our sexual position suggestions are far more modern than the Kama Sutra and you can be sure you won’t have tried them all before.

SUDOKU STYLE: Do positions 1 to 9 from the Kama Sutra without duplicating any number in her box.

ENGLAND STYLE: Cover their face with the Union Jack and think of England.

PAINTBALL STYLE: From a distance, using your weapon of choice, fire random blobs at her.

BLACK WIDOW STYLE: A lot of fun but someone gets killed.

MCDONALD STYLE: Scream “I’m lovin’ it” whilst probing her McFlurry.

GARDENERS STYLE: Plant your seed and watch her belly grow.

SAS STYLE: Hide naked in a bush and catch her unawares.

CONTORTIONIST STYLE: Get as much of you as you can in her box.

MADONNA STYLE: Stick 2 ice cream cones on your breasts and act like a virgin.

MATRIX STYLE: Simultaneously jump into the air and try to copulate whilst in mid air. Best done in slow motion.

HELICOPTER STYLE: Paint the letter H around your lady bits and watch as his chopper comes in to land.

DOUBLE BAG STYLE: Put a bag on her head and a bag on your head in case hers comes off. Great for women pulled whilst wearing beer goggles.

DOGGY STYLE: Grab her leg and rub yourself up and down it until you reach orgasm. Best tried whilst she is asleep.

FAT WOMAN STYLE: Roll her in flour and look for the wet bit.

SUN BURN STYLE: Only the genitals can touch.

KNITTING STYLE: In, over, through and off.

HOKEY COKEY STYLE: In, out, in, out, then shake it all about.

HEALTH AND SAFETY STYLE: Both put on safety goggles, illuminous jackets and gloves and attempt to gain entry without injuring yourselves or steaming up your goggles.

TRAMPOLINE STYLE: Bounce alternately. He lands first in the sitting position and woman lands on top aiming for penetration.

UNDER TRAMPOLINE STYLE: Usually follows after the previous position fails.

ARMY STYLE: Get her to clean your weapon using only her tongue and an electric toothbrush.

PINATA STYLE: Get them to hang off a tree whilst you poke them.

SAFE SEX STYLE: Both lie there, not touching each other and just think about what you could be doing if you weren’t so safety conscious.

STAR WARS STYLE: Launch a surprise attack from behind.


PRISON STYLE: Drop the soap in the shower and stuff a flannel in her mouth.

007 STYLE: Choose your woman wisely as she will be dead tomorrow.

ESSEX GIRL STYLE: Get the woman to wear white stilettos and say “you can see my kebab”.

ESCORT STYLE: Kissing is not allowed, however licking and touching of each others private body parts is absolutely fine.

DIY STYLE: Usually carried out alone.

FRIENDS REUNITED STYLE: Do it with old friends and then don’t see them again for ten years.

DIETERS STYLE: Everything looks and feels as normal but doesn’t taste quite so sweet.

AMERICAN STYLE: Do it whilst eating burgers.

DELIVERY DRIVER STYLE: You wait patiently all day but he still doesn’t come.

BANK STYLE: Low interest means withdrawal likely.

DRIVERS STYLE: After 10 minutes of huffing and puffing she says “are we there yet?”.

BARBIE AND KEN STYLE: Attempt intercourse without bending your arms or your legs.

MISSION IMPOSSIBLE STYLE: Suspend yourself from the ceiling by a wire and attempt intercourse without waking her.

ALIEN STYLE: Use your probe.

NINJA STYLE: She will never know you were there. Useful if you wouldn’t even touch the sides.

Ways for Massage Therapists to Keep Their Practice Fresh and Massage Clients Happy

Whether you have your own massage practice or are working as an employee in a spa or other professional setting, it is important to make a good first impression and then continue that reliable service each and every time you massage your clients. Too often, massage therapists forget what a session feels like from the client’s perspective. These tips will help you keep your practice fresh and interesting for clients who come in just once, and for clients who you see once a week. These ideas are meant to be supplementary of course, and are not meant to replace a consistent, quality massage. Clients should always be treated to unwaveringly good service, timeliness, and professionalism by massage therapists.

Reception / Waiting Room Area

When your client arrives, the first thing they should feel is a sense of being welcomed into your practice. Either you or a receptionist should check them in, offer them something to drink, and if you are not ready to see them immediately, offer the client a seat in a waiting room until the massage. Clients should be comfortable in the waiting room, but remember that waiting areas are not meant as places to “hold” a client until you have time to see them. Massage therapists should make sure the waiting room is a quiet place for clients to decompress before the session, but by no means should the client be there for an extended amount of time.

It is a good idea to keep a table in your waiting room with a fresh pitcher of water and glasses, so that your client can stay hydrated before the massage. Clients often come in for massages after a long day at work or after being stuck in traffic on the highway, and providing a small, healthy snack like a granola bar or fruit may also be appreciated by hungry clients before the massage. Therapists should provide a variety of family-friendly magazines catering to both men and women. Be sure to frequently rotate your magazines around so that while waiting for the massage, clients are not forced to read the same content week after week.

In the Massage Room

Prior to greeting your client, run through his or her S.O.A.P notes and review any notes about music preferences or aversion to scents from any prior massage. Clients might be tired of a specific CD, and it is a good idea to make a small note about what music you listen to during each session and review these notes to make sure your music selection stays fresh, just like magazines. Additionally, many massage therapists burn scented candles or oils in the treatment room. Make sure you ask your client periodically whether or not they like the scent, and if they do not, be sure to make a note of this as well.

After you greet and escort your client into your massage room, be sure to explain to them what to do with their clothes and shoes before the massage. For clients who are regulars, you do not have to repeat your entire speech each time, but massage therapists should always say something like “I’ll knock in a few seconds after your have time to hang up your clothes and get comfortable on the table” before leaving to prepare for the massage. Clients who have received massage before likely know the drill, but massage therapists should always give each client the same attention and care as a new client instead of simply saying something like “ok, see you in a few.” While the client is undressing, be sure to have a variety of places available to store personal belongings. Massage therapists should provide at least two hooks behind the door for coats and garments, perhaps a small basket for shoes (this makes them easier to move if you find they are in the way during the massage), and a small container for personal belongings like cell phones, watches, jewelry, etc. When not provided these amenities during a massage, clients may feel frustrated by having to fold their clothes on a chair, or may feel awkward about hanging their clothes up on a door. By providing multiple options, you make everybody happy.

Of course, you should approach your treatment session with the same professionalism and care that you would during each massage. Therapists should make the environment interesting, but remember that it is the massage clients are most interested in. Stay focused, listen to your client’s needs, and consistently provide the highest quality massage possible.

After the Massage

After the massage, and depending on your client’s preferences, it is a good idea to close with a saying or “thank you” to the client. Massage therapists should rotate these sayings around at the end of a massage – clients may be tired of hearing “thank you” each time, and something as small as saying “thank you for coming in today” or “thank you for your time” may be just the small change needed to keep it interesting. Before leaving the room, let your client know that you will leave a hot or moist towel on the shelf in case they want to get lotion off of their hands before getting dressed (some massage therapists offer this as an option, others do not – it is up to you). It is also a nice gesture to leave a mint or piece of candy next to the towel so that clients can feel fresh and awake each time they leave the massage. Clients should be greeted in the waiting room with a fresh glass of water from a pitcher – a refreshing way for massage therapists to offer their clients a healthy alternative to bottled water. While your client checks out, do not simply say “goodbye!” and walk back to your room, but spend some time speaking with him or her about any changes felt, ask about problem areas that are still bothersome, and recommend personalized stretches that the client may use between sessions.

It is easy for massage therapists to fall into a routine, and these small tips are simple ways to spruce up your practice just enough so that before, during, and after a massage, clients stay interested and know that you are concerned about their comfort.